Ah! We are all so busy. Work, family, life can be incredibly demanding. While we yearn for the pace to slow, while we dream of sandy beaches and margaritas on the terrace, while we swear we are going to learn to say “No,” it’s likely the pace may not change dramatically. What we can do is make our home a refuge, or at the very least, our bedroom.
A peaceful place to end your day is a great way to recharge, both your energy and your roommate’s—if you happen to have one—be it for a lifetime or overnight. The keys to a welcoming retreat are good lighting, inviting furnishings, music, and refreshments.
I’ve Got Your Back
Let’s start with the foundation. If you’re still sleeping on the mattress you bought after you graduated—and that was more than seven or eight years ago, it’s probably time for an upgrade. Believe me, your back agrees.
Part of that decision may lead to change in mattress size or room design. You may be committed to a certain size bed, or have a “dream” bed in mind, but be sure to measure both the room and the home’s access. Not being able to get your box springs up the stairs, around a corner or through a doorway can be a headache.
Lean on Me
Once you’ve settled on your mattress, the next step is a headboard. Headboards have a more practical side than you may think. Their sturdiness and ability to anchor your bedframe are pragmatic. Also, they are pretty! I prefer an upholstered headboard as they provide a bit of cushion if you read or watch TV in bed. (Though I’m a big proponent of no television in the bedroom.) But wood headboards are handsome! Rattan, as well, certainly has appeal.
Make Your Bed
Now it’s time to dress the bed. Ah, bed linens! You’re creating a haven, and now that you’ve made smart decisions about the foundation, the fun is about to begin. I’m firmly a white sheet gal myself, but if you want color or pattern, your bed is a good place to use it. You’ll have to talk to someone else about the value of high thread-count bedding. I am no princess, and big-box store sheets have evolved to the point that I can’t justify bedding that exceeds a car payment. That said, I do like a good bed cover, such as a mattlesse or quilt, as they provide a nice weight, which can be relaxing.
Sleep temperature is important. Generally, a cooler bedroom is a good idea, but bedmates’ personal temperatures are not always the same. Bedding layers can help. I have two down comforters—a heavy one for winter and a lighter one in the summer, as much for the weight as the warmth. My husband is not wired the same and is happy to kick them off. Another solution is comforters that have different weights on the two halves. Genius! (Wonder why that took so long?)
Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark
My father can fall asleep anywhere—day or night. But darkness is conducive to sleep. Blinds, shades, curtains—whatever it takes—to hide the break of day should help you stay asleep until the alarm goes off. (Or the dog needs out, or the children are hungry, or your boss texts.) Effectively blocking light is good for sleep, which is good for your health. (Just in case you needed to rationalize.)
Thanks to the broad availability of attractive ready-made window coverings, we are no longer limited to custom. Take advantage of these if it makes sense. Do I regret the four panels of Brunschwig and Fils large-scale chinoiserie-pattern curtains that I had made in the 90s? Not a bit, and I’ve reused them in two or three rooms. But I wouldn’t say they are exactly versatile. I won’t discourage patterned curtains, but they are an investment—and tastes do change. Consider your long-term budget before you commit. Today, retailers have great ready-to-hang—and even custom options—that can make your selection and your sleep easier.
Always Underfoot
When it comes to bedrooms, soft is the name of the game. I loathe shoes and kick them off as soon as I’m home. I realize not everyone feels the same, and their feet may not be bare until they retire for the night. But I think we can all agree that a soft rug underfoot in the bedroom is critical. Rugs are an investment, but it’s better not to skimp. By definition, they take a lot of wear and tear. This is another place where timeless styles are best.
Oh, my, I’ve gotten a little carried away. This may have been a lot for one sitting. Maybe we should take a nap.